3 Ways To Mind Your Own Business
Step back when people communicate directly or indirectly that you should do so. Respect others when they tell you that something is not your business and/or change the subject. Keep in mind that this is not to say that you should not get involved with social issues, like poverty or children’s health, that don’t affect you directly.
Parent, “mind your own business” — and your first and principal business is, to seek the salvation of your children’s souls. Giving them a secular education, and teaching them how to obtain a livelihood — are matters only of secondary importance. Our children are immortal, they must live forever, and they are entrusted to us, not to be educated for time merely — but to be trained for eternity. But they are entrusted to US, and we are personally responsible for their training. Every parent is bound to seek the immediate, and unquestionable, conversion of each of his children to God, from the moment they are capable of understanding the nature of sin, the love of Jesus, and the way of salvation.
Give everyone involved the benefit of the doubt until you do. Minding your own business does not mean being a bystander when you encounter a situation that’s potentially dangerous. If you see someone engaging in a high-risk behavior that is illegal, physically destructive, and/or potentially harmful to themselves or others, it’s responsible to intervene, especially if no one else is. A useful exercise for gaining perspective on a situation is making a ring chart to analyze your relationship to it. Start by drawing a circle and writing those who are directly involved in the situation in the center. Then, draw another ring for those people who are most affected by the issue.
The words of Jesus, contain the general principle, “Seek first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness.” Spiritual things, are to be sought first in point of time, and principally as the most important. Keeping this in view, let us apply the words to two or three classes of people. Everyone therefore should be at his post, employing his talents — and mind his own proper business. This is true as it respects temporal things, for man was never intended to live in idleness, and if anyone does, he cannot be happy.
In California, at least, mindfulness and other conveniently accessible derivatives of Buddhism flourished well before BlackBerries. I first heard the word in 1998 from a wealthy landlady in Berkeley, advising me to be “mindful” of the suffocating Martha Stewart-ish decor of the apartment I was renting from her, which of course I was doing everything possible to un-see. A possible connection between her “mindfulness” and Buddhism emerged only when I had to turn to a tenants’ rights group to collect my security deposit. She countered with a letter accusing people like me—leftists, I suppose, or renters—of oppressing Tibetans and disrespecting the Dalai Lama. In the mindfulness lexicon, the word “enlightenment” doesn’t have a place. Impress them with something that could make them interested.